Blowing of the pu. (conch)
O ke aloha ke kuleana o kahi malahini. “Love is the host in this land.”
He pilikani kakaou apau ma Hawaii nei. “Here in Hawaii we are all family.”
Aloha komo mai. “Welcome with love.”
We have come together here today to share with you, ______ and ______, a most important moment in your lives, that moment in which you
publicly declare your desire to share your lives, one with the other. In truth, no person or agency has the right or the power to unite you, as this act
took place when your hearts came together and agreed to be involved in a committed and loving relationship. We have the honor therefore, to
witness that which has already taken place, now being declared in the physical.
A lei is given in a spirit of thankfulness. Each blossom is picked from the Earth, then strung one by one so each will shine at its most brilliant. It is
a symbol of beauty, made with care and given with love. A lei is a circle of beauty, without beginning, without end. A lei encircles the head and
touches the heart. A lei delights the senses and inspires wonder. A lei is as fragile as today, as enduring as memory.
As you exchange these lei, you will begin to weave your lei in life together with love. And now, with aloha, in the island style…please present your
lei to one another with a smile and a kiss upon both cheeks. May the attributes of these lei inspire your lives. They were offered in the spirit of
“What is Marriage”
What is Marriage?
Marriage is giving…not giving up or giving in, but giving love and being loved.
Marriage is not the loss of identity; it is the birth of a more beautiful identity,
A special identity that only the two of you will really know.
Marriage is soft, not weak. Strong, but not insensitive.
Brave, but not without wisdom.
Together, but not at the expense of one another.
Marriage is young and new each day, tender and reflective each night.
Marriage knows not years as we count time…marriage is for the heart.
Marriage is love finding its home.
To the Bride and the Groom
There are no human ties so sweet and tender as those you are about to assume. There are no vows so solemn as those you are about to make.
On this day of your marriage you stand somewhat apart from all other human beings, for you stand within the charmed circle of your love for each
other. This love is not your possession. It is a source of common energy that flows freely through each of you and gives you the courage to live
your lives more fully.
You stand before me now in the true spirit of Aloha. Aloha recognizes a bonding of all people and expresses that bonding through love, affection,
compassion and kindness. Aloha acknowledges the value and worth of all people.
For your desire to integrate the spirit of Aloha within the framework of a meaningful life together, you deserve great respect. You also deserve to
experience love that will continually bring you joy and make both of you better people--a love that will give you the strength to face the
responsibilities of married life, for there will be many. And, you deserve a home, but not just a place like you have now that’s made of stone and
wood. Rather, allow your home to be an island, an oasis of serenity, where the values of your lives are generated and upheld.
So that finally, when you come to the end of your lives together, I know you will be able to say these two things to each other: Because you have
loved me, I have faith in myself; and because I have seen the good in you, I have faith in all humanity.
Marriage is composed of two separate beings, each of them different, seeking life’s fulfillment together. Today, as husband and wife, you open
the doors to the endless possibilities to your future, and to the opportunity to love as you have never loved before.
Will you, ______ and ______, bring to this new life, each for the sake of the other, the very best that you have?
Invitation to Commitment
Please face each other and join your right hands.
______, do you take ______, whose hand you hold, choosing her alone to be your wife? Will you love her, comfort her, honor her at all times, and
forgetting all others remain faithful to her alone?
(Repeat for the bride using husband and him.)
Exchange of Vows
_________, please repeat after me.
I, ______, take you ______…to be my wife…I pledge to share my life openly with you…to speak the truth to you in love…I promise to honor and
tenderly care for you…to cherish and encourage…your own fulfillment as an individual…through all the changes of our lives.
(Repeat for the bride using husband.)
Giving of Rings
______, this ring is a symbol of the unbroken unity of married life. As such, you will place it on ______’s finger after repeating the following
I give you this ring…with all of my heart…let it always be to us…a symbol of our love…as a token of our faithfulness…each to the other…I place it
now upon your hand.
(Repeat for the bride)
Pronouncement of Marriage
Having joined your hearts with the expression of your love, having promised each other all the joy of your days, by the authority vested in me by the
state of Hawaii, it gives me great pleasure to pronounce that you are now Husband and Wife.
You may seal your union with a kiss.
Introduction of the Couple
Now, I am honored to announce for the first time as husband and wife, ______________________________________________.
Civil Non-Religious Ceremony, Rev. Gary Canier
P.O. Box 1493, Kihei, HI 96753 ● Telephone: 808-283-0539 ● email: firstname.lastname@example.org
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